Monday, November 19, 2012

I'm (NOT) Sorry

Alright. This blog is going to be more about I'm sorry than anything else. It is more of an attempt for me to work though some things of my own and you all just get to read it so...enjoy.

I tend to have a problem with saying I'm sorry. It is not that I don't apologize rather that I do it too much, often for things that are not my fault and I have no control over. I apologize for the weather, for disappointing, for something not working or for feelings. I think I do this because all I really want is for the other person in the relationship to be happy. This is true in all of my relationships not just my romantic ones. I have this desire for goodness, happiness and peace. I feel like if I cannot grant that to someone then I am failing that person. It is weird and slightly twisted but hey that's what makes me fun right? One of the hardest things for me to deal with is the future because there is no way for me to understand it, control it or fix it; I don't like it. If a significant other and I have a disagreement I will compromise my beliefs, agree and apologize to make that person happy.

I am done with that. I am my own person and it is time I start standing up for myself. Prepare yourself world...I'm on my way. I think that this desire to please is also emphasized when a person in a relationship makes it know that they are less than pleased when things do not go their way. For example: When I was with Jason he wanted me to buy something and it was ridicules and totally out of my budget. Because I said no he went about the rest of the day pouting and telling me how little I cared for him because I would not buy it. Finally I ended up giving up a great deal to afford the item to make him see that I did care. It was then that I realized I was being used, whether or not he was meaning to use me I don't know but I felt like nothing more than a meal ticket. Girls, Guys, Flying Sources I don't care who or what you are, if you are ever left by your significant other feeling empty, dirty, worthless or used it is time to let go and move on. Anyone who loves you and is worth your time will only build you up and encourage you- if they only have you around to belittle you and make themselves a bigger person please please please know that you are worth so much more. I don't know you but I do know that you are a beautiful person and that there is someone in the world for you and it may not be easy but sometimes we have to be patient and wait because that one person will be worth it and so much more. Love is not easy- it is work but it is worth it because love is not something you can make rather you fall into it and it makes you. When you love someone; truly love them you should want the best and happiness for them regardless what that means for you. Love is selfless and that is why it is so fantastic.

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