Monday, November 19, 2012

Dating a Romantic. How To.


First off you need to know if you are a romantic or if you're significant other is. The signs are there I promise. It is important to know that you should never do that is not true to yourself even if your partner likes it. You have to be comfortable. That is part of a relationship mutual comfort.

So I know I'm a hopeless romantic. I have always dreamed of having a “Prince Charming” sweep me off my feet and have a happily ever after. I've always wanted that perfect moment of kissing in the rain, the guy who just smiles wraps his arms around me kisses my forehead and tells me I'm perfect. If you think I'm sounding cheesy or like I'm telling you the story line for any chick flick you are right. Princess Bride is a great movie to get ideas from if you're not use to being romantic. I'm not saying go out and become a pirate but you'll understand the principle. The Notebook is every girls dream. Go watch it and take notes. So that is the mind of a hopeless romantic. A romantic guy is the guy who always has a flower is gentlemanly opens doors etc etc etc. again reference movies for ideas.

So the steps are going to be simple:
1.                  Understand that you are dating a romantic; it is hard I know, but they are unique.
2.                  Hold her hand in public. This is a really important aspect people sometimes over look. When you hold a girl’s hand in public it is telling everyone else that she is yours, it is telling her that you care enough not to let go.
3.                  Tell her she is pretty. She's a romantic, think of her as being a princess; they need to be told they are still your favorite.
4.                  Be a gentleman. Everything your mother taught you was true. Hold doors, pull out chairs, walk her to the door and hold the umbrella for her in the rain.
5.                  Sweet nothings. A sweet nothing can be as simple as a text telling her you miss her and she is wonderful, to surprising her somewhere, to getting her flowers, to just spending time with her. Make it clear that she is special to you and that you enjoy having her around.
6.                  Flowers.  Just a simple flower, a single carnation a dozen roses it doesn't matter. They are flowers and we (girls) love flowers. If you want to be creative or cheesy you can draw or make a flower, you buy a fake one and tell her you'll care for her til it dies (if it's fake...if it's real you'll just make her cry)
7.                  Compliments. This is a lot like number 3 but more so it is important to let her know you care about her just the way she is. Find out one of her insecurities and instead of criticizing or making fun of it, compliment it. If she is really sensitive about the dimple in her chin tell her you think it is cute. If she hates her hair, tell her it is perfect. If she doesn't like her smile, tell her to smile because it makes the sun shine. ((Only compliment if true. Do NOT lie.))
8.                  Be patient. Romantics are fragile creatures. We're terrified of getting hurt because we care too deeply for people. Be patient and let us know it is safe to open up. Sometimes, depending on the relationship, you may have to open a little to get them to open up.

So there you go, 8 easy steps to dating a romantic. Take care to be honest and true. Do not change who you are for anyone. If they do not care for you enough at your best without changing then they do not deserve you. Love everyone at their worse and you'll never go wrong.

“You only get just one time around. You only get one shot at this. One chance, to find out...
The one thing that you don't wanna miss”

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